Tuesday, July 05, 2005


Senate staffers Kathy Neubel(Grassley) and Michael Thompson (Kyl) in response to the below e-mail exchange want off my cc list. Makes perfect sense because the REPUBLICAN CONTROLLED committee hearing the renewal of the Violence of Against Women won't hear testimony from critics of the law. So Kathy and Michael are the latest winners of my Republican Non-listner Award.

Date: Tue, 5 Jul 2005 06:32:55 -0700 (PDT)

From: "MARK KLEIN, M.D."
Subject: Fwd: Battered Wives and Women Under Stress
To: kbatarfi@al-madina.com.sa

America tried the legislative "magic bullet" to end violence against women with the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) which comes up for renewal in September. While well intended it morphed into huge bureaucratic system controlled by strident feminists who see divorce as the only solution to real and imagined complaints. Worse yet the law transfered the adjudication of physical domestic violence from the criminal courts to family courts. Men are jailed all the time without Constitutional Due Process rights by women making FALSE ACCUSATIONS to gain the upper hand financially and with child custody in the divorce courts.

Marriage is inherently unstable. It is a vast, storm tossed ocean for which no compass has yet been invented. That’s why most cultures down through the ages sharply restricted divorce, deeply distrusted romantic love, and pressured people to marry within a familiar social, religious and economic milieu.

Beware of getting what you wish for.

Mark Klein, M.D.
Board Certified Psychiatrist

Battered Wives and Women Under Stress

Dr. Khaled Batarfi,

kbatarfi@al-madina.com — http://kbatarfi.blogspot.com/

My last article “Justice for Women: Some Urgent Steps” generated many positive and passionate responses. Huda, my niece, for instance, decried the way countless women are denied marriage to men of their choice. They are pressured to marry relatives or from rich and well-connected families.

Too many parents ignore Islam’s instructions to let their girls choose. This is a symptom of how they regard women as incapable of deciding for themselves. A girl, they fear, would go for a handsome, romantic suitor rather than a solid man of character, achievement and position.

When life becomes hell for wives, they have to endure it because no one — judge and society — would accept their grounds for divorce. Psychological satisfaction is not good enough of a reason for separation in lots of courts of law and public opinion.

Many divorced women are brutally punished. They take most of the blame for the marriage’s failure. While a man, especially with no kids, can remarry a woman of his choice, his divorced wife hardly can. The stigma of being a divorcee limits her choices and timeline. In lots of cases, she goes from one prison to another. This and the risk of losing her kid’s custody force many abused wives to stay the course. A hell you know, they figure, is better than the one you don’t.

Needless to say, this should not be tolerated in an Islamic society. Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, told us that the best of us are the kindest to their women. He set a great example in the way he treated his women with respect, love and kindness. His first wife, Khadija, was also his boss. His young wife, Aisha was his consultant in matters of politics and governance. We are supposed to follow his example to be Muslims, so why we don’t?


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